Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Preschoolers and their Games

Preschool childhood is often called “the age of playing”. Psychologists and teachers consider games as the main type of activity of any kid who does not go to school. It results from social conditionality of kids’ development. The game is a special form of kids’ existence in the community which has great importance for them. It is an activity in which children perform roles of adults recreating conditions of adults’ life, work and relationship. Playing children cognize life in all its phenomena.

The games of preschoolers and  pupils of elementary school (from the age 5-6 years old up to the age of 8-9 years) are characteristic with main orientation to human relationships in contrast with games of younger children  (0-5 years old) which are mainly oriented at manipulations with inanimate things and objects. Of course preschoolers continue to perceive nonliving nature and articles around them, but human relations take most part of their games.

The games of preschoolers take the form of role-playing, the children learn be a part of children’s’ community which imitates in many traits the community of adults. Compliance with the rules becomes the main thing in the games. The rules may rapidly and often change, but they must remain in the limits of chosen roles and game “storyline”. In a collective game between real children a real relationship arises that leads in the future to individual liking and disliking, to friendship and to disaffection.

The games develop real social skills of children that is why very important not to let children often play online and computer games since these games misrepresent somehow the real life, real human relations and real properties of things.

In addition to distorted model of the world in their brains the children succumbed to the charm of on-line and computer games become physically underdeveloped since the single muscles which work during online and computer playing are eye muscles and hand muscles. These are quite tiny muscles, especially eye muscles which can easily be overloaded during the games. Eye muscles overload often leads to vision disorders and hand muscles overload can cause such unfavorable disorders as numbness of fingers or cramps.

So it is highly recommendable that children under 8 years were not using computer at all even for learning purposes. From time to time a computer can be used as a movie or music center, but in this case a child has to be at a reasonable distance from it.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Pop(e) Idol Smokes Dope

Last news about Justin Bieber who appeared to smoke weed as it did many others stars before him, both singers and movie actors, shocked public another time. Shocked, but added popularity to Justin among youth.  One of popular comedians, Tommy Chong said in the sense that smoking marijuana is good for talent. I don't know whether Justin Bieber agrees with this statement, but I suppose that he does, because of being too young, rich and surrounded by people of art.

Among artists (in wide sense of the word,  i. e. including musicians and singers) a belief is widespread that narcotics and alcohol contribute to creativity of a man. It is only fair to say that there is a small part of truth in this belief, but very very small one. How then creativity rises after use of a narcotic or alcohol? The reason is that there are six stages of narcotic intoxication (alcohol is a narcotic too) from which the first three, euphoria, excitement and confusion are relatively favorable for creativeness since nervous system becomes more aroused than in a normal situation. Arousal of nervous system contributes to faster activity of those brain parts that are related to creative abilities, in particular to imagination and emotions. But there is one limitation. In such a way narcotics affect only a relatively healthy person whose addiction has not yet damaged important parts of nervous system. What do I mean? There are three forms of response to a narcotic dose: euphoric, stimulating, supporting. 

The first form, euphoric, means that after a dose the person becomes happier, the mood and ability to work rise, body organs and nervous system have not been damaged yet, but addiction already develops. This form of response is typical for the first stage of narcomania or alcoholism and for not addicted persons.

The second form, stimulating one, means that the person has been quite strongly addicted, all time he/she feels uncomfortably and only taking a dose makes this person feel well. At this stage heavy hangovers arise regularly.

The third form of response, supporting or toning up one, means that all the "sober" time a person not only feels uncomfortable, but also has many heavy physiological disorders, such as tremor, depression, etc. and only taking a dose returns this person to normality, both mentally and physically.

As you can see, only first form of response to a drug dose, euphoric one, can make stronger creativeness since a person rises above his/her normal level of nervous activity. Other two forms of response only return persons from a bottom to a normal level of their creative abilities.

Many artists who start using drugs think that euphoric state after dose will take place every time they take such dose, but it is not correct. Human body gets accustomed to a specific drug and specific dose and gradually the first form of response turns into second form. Trying to return the first form of response and stimulate in this way own creativeness the person increases the dose or changes the drug type. Sometimes the creative output can be raised in this way, but it leads to a deadlock because with the lapse of time the person has permanently to increase dosage only to remain on his/her normal level. But this, normal, level of creativeness is being considered as higher level. Of course it is an illusion. At a moment the drug dosage becomes very high and intolerable by the body. Nevertheless such dosage does not provide return even to a normal level of physiological comfort, to say nothing of creativeness. The addicted artist takes such dose trying to get former feeling. He takes it and dies. Overdosage.

Such was the destiny of Marilyn Monroe, Brittany Murphy, John Belushi and others. Justin, do not repeat their folly, give up the drugs!

Alcoholism and Marriage

Alcohol abuse by both spouses is not a rare thing in today’s world regardless of the country. There are two ways for marital alcoholism to come into being:

1. A man and a woman both have alcohol dependence and enter into a marriage;

2. Alcohol dependence develops in marriage.

There are several models of the family in which both spouses suffer from alcoholism:

       1. Sociopathic model. It is characterized by gross change of social roles. Members of the family are characterized by an early mutual alcoholism, psychopathic form of response (hysteric women and explosive men), rapid changes in the stages of intoxication, by the desire for group forms of alcohol consumption. As a rule the alcoholic dependence of spouses is inherited form their parents and is fixed on a mental level. In five to ten years of alcohol abuse these families get problems in family and work activities, spouses cease to cope with economic and educational functions. In worst cases the family turns into an alcoholic den. In this case, the spouses explain why they drink as follows: "we drink for courage," "because we have nothing to do", "to make life brighter", "life is boring"etc. Drinking alcohol is being disguised with "parties" with people of their own kind.

      2. Neurotic model. This family is characterized by a combination of neurotic types of relationships and alcoholism. If family problems have been developed before alcohol abuse then alcohol is used by both parties together to relieve stress, to find a common language or improve interpersonal relations. If interpersonal difficulties are secondary, as a result of drinking of one spouse, the other begins to drink out of desperation, out of spite, etc., that is just for personal reasons.

      3. Oligophrenic-like model. This kind of family is characterized by underdevelopment of the couple virtually in all spheres of life. They are united by a low level of education, low social status and spiritual and moral development. In such families, the use of alcohol is based on alcoholic traditions of society. As a rule the members of this type of family have a slight social maladjustment, spouses usually work in low-skilled jobs.

Addicted spouses try to justify the fact that they drink with excuses like: "it is the custom", “if I don't drink, they'll think I'm a snob”, "to honor the person who offers a drink," “it's rude to refuse”, "everybody else drinks, so why shouldn’t we?", "for the appetite" etc. The members of this type of family don’t think about harmful effects of alcoholism. Moreover, I must say that they just do not know about these effects. Even seeing a death occurred as a result of alcohol abuse, the death of a friend or family member, they consider that alcohol is not to blame, but the lack of alcohol to cure a hangover.

Marital alcoholism is a major problem. Addiction in familial form of alcoholism complicates diseases of each spouse, inflicting great harm not only to the drinkers, but also to children who grow up in an atmosphere of distress and get neurotic and psychopathic traits which will be a breeding ground for the development of alcoholism in the future.

In addition to adverse effects on children growing up next to their addicted parents, marital alcoholism destroys all spheres of the couple. The health, both physical and mental, becomes worse. Sexual disharmony grows.

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Take Care of Perverts! They are So Funny!

 From an anonymous girl.

I am a 22-years old girl quite pretty and quite clever, brunette.  When I was a little girl about 10 years old I often had a walk with my friends in the neighboring park. A couple of times we met there flashers (exhibitionists), such typical guys having a cloak over a naked body and masturbating with right hand. What do you think – were we shocked or frightened? Quite the contrary, we had great fun! Instead of escaping from the flashers the entire our band ran after them screaming, yelling silly questions and stupidly laughing. Poor perverts were so uncomfortable that they did not know where to go and took their heels at full speed! Now I feel even some sort of sorry for them :) .